The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All

The Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All

I've been reading this book by author Laura Bates called Men Who Hate Women: From Incels to Pickup Artists, the Truth about Extreme Misogyny and How it Affects Us All. 

It's about a woman who went undercover in an incel and pick up artist forums and message boards. 

I first became curious about this topic after I saw a TikTok featuring a 4th-grade teacher. 

She said the little boys in her class were telling the girls that they only want men’s money. She’s also overheard conversations. There’s little boys who talk about being obsessed with watching Andrew Tate and other men like him. 

The author of the book explains how she slowly became immune to reading misogynistic views, hate speech, and the praising of assaulting women. 

While it’s clear a lot of these men are suffering from mental illness, and need help. 

They have other men on these boards hyping them up. Encouraging them go as far as to commit suicide because of their bad looks and no hope of ever being a romantic relationship. 

There’s a YouTube channel where a man charges $25 for men to send him pictures of their faces, so he can rate them on a scale from 1-10. 

A lot of them are telling young men they’re ugly and hopeless. They say  they need to buy their course, or ebook, to learn how to manipulate and coerce women into bed. 

So they’re shamelessly profiting off of vulnerable men. It's ironic how they bang on about women preying on men for money as they prey on men for money… 

I know a sales funnel when I see one, you're not slick. 

They need to revise the party line from “Women only want your money” to “Women only your money, and TBH, samesies”. 

As a person writes this blog, a blog featuring content on domestic violence, a lot of their tactics is worryingly similar to tactics used by abusers. 

This content is becoming popular with young boys and that’s horrifying. 

My nieces are going to grow up in a world where boys, tell them their only worth resides in their looks, bodies, and sex appeal. 

I guess women like Maya Angelou, RBG, Rosa Parks, and Amelia Earhart made amazing contributions to society by being super hot. 

Telling our girls they only want money and ”resources” from men (WTF, do you sell fossil fuel or something?) is disgusting. 

These alpha males” *barf* also tell men and boys to go for younger women or girls. 

So they’re also promoting relationships with major power imbalances—which is just disturbing and creepy.

It’s disgusting and I’m terrified for little girls. 

This stuff is triggering too. Growing up, I watched a family member who married a man for money. He’s a dirtbag who chronically cheated on her and treated her like trash/live-in servant. 

She couldn’t leave him because he held the purse strings and she’d be out on the street without him. 

I promised myself I’d never end up like her, she’s one of the most miserable people I know, so I’d rather eat glass than ever depend on any man. 

Meanwhile, podcasters and YouTubers are profiting off men having a hard time. 

Not every woman is looking to be a kept woman; grow up. Adult women can handle this kind of disrespect, we’ve dealt with much worse from society. But I’m so worried about our little girls and boys. 


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